Reality Review

So the Gosselins are breaking up. It wasn’t that long ago that they renewed their vows in Hawaii. I’ve been wondering if, because the trip was free for them, they didn’t take the ceremony as seriously as they might have had they had to scrimp and save for it. Was it just something they did for the show? Did they think it would help their marriage? I had thought that they had a special bond of support, that, because they didn’t seem to have the support of their families, they relied on eachother. I guess I was wrong.

I watched Tori Spelling’s reality show when it first started jsut to see what it was like. Surprisingly, I have watched every episode. Not sure if it’s because it really is interesting or I have some personality flaw. The last few ahve driven me crazy though. At every turn, viewers are reminded that Tori has to cope with life on her own while Dean is in Calgary for 5 weeks. Literally every ten minutes, whenever the scene shifts to the next thing Tori has to do (go to NY for an appearance, go to Tampa for HSN, go back to NY for her book meeting. I guess it was all to make us feel that much more elated for her when Dean surprised her in NY on Valentine’s Day. It was touching when she saw him ans was so surprised. She admits to being a workaholic but to tell us how stressed she is having to deal with her various enterprises falls on deaf ears in my case. I realize she needs to do these things to have income, but these are some incredible opportunities the rest of us would love to have the chance to complain about!

So Kendra is engaged (getting married tomorrow!) and pregnant. Some wonder just what her relationship with Hef was all about. I’m not close to the situation (so far away that you can’t count all the stars between us) but I have always thought that he was more of a father figure to her. He can’t possibly be that active in bed to satisy 3 or more girls. Being with Hef is a great door-opener, a great opportunity to see new things, meet new people, and start a career in Hollywood. I think that’s what it was for her. He settled her down, gave her security, gave her a path to go on which it sounds like she needed from she’s been quoted as saying. I was a bit worried her show would be thin on plot, just showing how blond she can be. I think they do need some variety of people. Kendra is still the playful one with Hank as her straight man. But it’s entertaining.

Gene Simmon’s Family Jewels shows how unreal a reality TV show can be. What girl is going to let her father tell her that an old non-practicing  Jewish rock star should be her child’s godfather? For drama, they show Gene and his girlfriend Shannon rushing off to NYC to get a gift for the baby and getting to the church just a few minutes late enough to make people start to wonder if they would show at all. That show is so obviously planned. But yet I still watch.

And Jessica Simpson is going to show us all the extremes people will go to for fashion and good looks. I’ll watch because she’s another person who interests me. Interesting coincidence that the movie she said was a factor in her decision to divorce Nick is at about the same time he and his girlfriend Vanessa break up. I watched the movie to see if I could figure out what in it was so key to her. I think it was when Noah says (it’s not an exact quote) “What do YOU want to do? Not what your mother thinks, not what (the fiance) thinks. What do YOU want?” that made Jessica think just what did she want… She is so close to her parents that she probably thought about what they wanted, so this gave her permission to think for herself. I woudl think they are so different that they would not try too imitate star-crossed lvovers, but who knows…

It’s Jessica who needs saving!

I want to be nice and I want to be well-written. But I don’t have to be either if I don’t want to…

Jessica Simpson dated Nick Lachey because he needed saving? She’s really not in touch with herself if she thinks that! He catered to her neediness, treated her like the diva she grew up to be. She sang about how he let her be herself. I think he did more for her than she ever could for anyone. Now she’s being ’saved’ by Tony Romo. Seriously, does she think love is all about saving and being saved? That’s romantic but in reality a person needs to be able to have their own identity and not feel incomplete without another person. She can say he’s supportive of her and her endeavors, as she should be of his. She can say she appreciates the many aspects of his personality, as he should of her. But enough with this ’saving’ business!

Jessica’s Still Searching for Herself

I became aware of Jessica Simpson when she did her Newlyweds show on MTV. I taped it (the oldfashioned VHS way!) and couldn’t wait until the next morning when I could watch it before I went to work. Ever since, I have tried to follow what she’s been up to via TV appearances and People magazine. I don’t admit this obsession to anyone as I don’t know what they’ll think ( yes, I care too much about that). Reading her comments lately have made me realize that despite all the money, all the famous people she’s met, all the great places she’s been, she’s still got a little immaturity and/or a lack of self-confidence in her. It seems like she feels she needs a man to raise her up from the low places she’s been and to make her whole. I think she’s an honest person and isn’t saying the things she does about her relationship to sell an album. But what chaos and bad places has she been in for the last 3 years? Is she talking about having broken up with Nick Lachey? She let him go, so I can’t see where that is responsible for her issues. Maybe she felt that letting him go was the wrong decision and I see in that some immaturity of not knowing what she wants or wanting more than she has. Maybe he did treat her somewhat like a child and she wanted to grow up from that. But she could have grown with him and created a change in his behavior. I recall songs written during her time with him about how she could be herself with him and that she felt supported by him. I thought she might be less forthcoming about her relationship so that it might not be subject to public scrutiny like her marriage. But she’s saying almost the same thing about what she gets out of her relationship with Tony Romo. She’s still searching for a comfort level in herself. It’s so interesting that she has done all she has and still doesn’t completely ‘get’ herself.